Whatever the chain of events that has put us, in our current form, on this planet at this time, I feel far more privileged to exist when I consider the millions of years of evolution and cosmic shift that has made our lives possible than by the thought that we were manufactured, and our world was made for us, by a man in the sky.
Life created by a supreme being is but a toy, a plaything for levels of existence far beyond our own, but a life that exists on a knife edge, life that is a gift from our ancestors who braved their surroundings and adapted so that we might one day master them—that is a gift to be cherished.
The person sat next to you on the bus is not much more than a mayfly in the great scheme of things, given a brief window in the eternity of time to live and to love, to taste strawberries and to ride bicycles and experience cold sores and stomach upsets, to have baths that had too much cold water in them and to hate the taste of oysters and not understand poetry. There is so much for each of us to get done and so little time to do it in that we can’t possibly do it without help, so we should make space for one another, clear a path to allow those of us through who need a helping hand.
What men mean when they talk about their “crazy” ex-girlfriend is often that she was someone who cried a lot, or texted too often, or had an eating disorder, or wanted too much/too little sex, or generally felt anything beyond the realm of emotionally undemanding agreement. That does not make these women crazy. That makes those women human beings, who have flaws, and emotional weak spots. However, deciding that any behavior that he does not like must be insane– well, that does make a man a jerk.
And when men do this on a regular basis, remember that, if you are a woman, you are not the exception. You are not so cool and fabulous and levelheaded that they will totally get where you are coming from when you show emotions other than “pleasant agreement.”
When men say “most women are crazy, but not you, you’re so cool” the subtext is not, “I love you, be the mother to my children.” The subtext is “do not step out of line, here.” If you get close enough to the men who say things like this, eventually, you will do something that they do not find pleasant. They will decide you are crazy, because this is something they have already decided about women in general.
Lady, You Really Aren’t “Crazy” (via rosaley)
Listen, I totally agree that calling a woman “crazy” because of these things is a stupid and jerky thing to do, but I’m really getting tired of these broad generalizations of “men.” Yeah, some men can be assholes and say a woman is crazy because of some weak spots but some can be legitimately be calling their ex crazy because she threatened him with a fucking knife. I don’t think my friend was being an asshole when he said his ex was “crazy” after that event. I don’t think this was a small flaw, it was a major goddamn flaw and she is legit crazy.
Broad generalizations about “men” being assholes all the time is just so silly when there are quite a few of us who are perfectly courteous, smart and non-insulting individuals. The world is populated by good men too.
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